My preference for the online dating pool may be because my social circles don’t bring me into contact with an abundance of single gay men, or because it’s interesting to meet people who are outside my everyday experience. The debut of website that promotes mindful dating—is exciting.
I wonder, though, if what we are being mindful about will be open to wide interpretation.
It may be tempting to exaggerate certain aspects of yourself—like your income, life experiences, or career—in an effort to attract others, but the truth has a funny way of coming out.
Instead of risking what could be a good thing by lying, simply be honest.
Allow potential dates to imagine themselves fitting into your life.
You might think people only want to see what you look like when they look at your profile picture; however, you’d be surprised to know that if you have a picture where you are something—like parasailing, hiking, meditating, traveling, riding horses—you’ll get more responses.
The profile for Guy #1 may go something like this: I am an athletic jock looking for fun. You must practice ballet beneath the full moon when the new moon falls on a Tuesday… Guy #1 and Guy #2 may have nice photos and stats, but both speak in ultimatums and mandates. If we attract what we are and if we become what we think about, I’d like to manifest the gentleman who is simple and joyous.
Take mine, for example: And that, ladies and gentlemen, is my two-paragraph spiel that I have honed to online-dating poetry.
Rather than just a picture of your face (which you should still include), you will reveal your interests and personality through pictures.
When you talk about certain aspects of your life, don’t use negative language.
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